I remember one day in my sociology class last semester... My professor brought up the topic of makeup and expensive beautiful clothing, and why women feel the "need" to buy into it. He said "because women want to be told that they are beautiful." I was so completely thrown by this accusation and arrogant assumption he made! How ignorant of a conclusion to make about all of womankind! I wanted to fight back in outrage and say "NO. I don't buy and use makeup for my boyfriend to tell me 'hey you look nice today.' I don't splurge on clothes and expensive shoes and dresses for a stranger on the street to ask me 'OMG where did you get that outfit!' I didn't buy my very first Tiffany & Co. necklace for my friends to tell me 'Is that Tiffany's?!.'" I DO THOSE THINGS FOR MYSELF. Contrary to your belief Sir, but not all women feel the need for some sort of validation from the world that they are beautiful, pretty, or gorgeous. Because I already know that I am. I may have days where I look bloated and feel like a beached whale, we all do! But I don't need someone to tell me I'm still pretty regardless. Furthermore, I don't feel it's necessary for myself to analyze my own personality and mannerisms to mysteriously conclude by some made up questionnaire that I am confident. Confidence is not something to be measured, given, or awarded. Confidence is unspoken-quiet, yet not silent. I know that I am confident and comfortable in myself and who I am, but I do not feel the need to scream this to the heavens for all to know. And you shouldn't either. Instead I encourage you to seek a journey in exploring this idea of quiet confidence.
A while back I wrote this excerpt portraying a mans view of a woman with this aura and dedication to living a life astray from needing the validation of others:
"It wasn't the way she carried herself, or the eloquence with which she spoke. She didn't command the room for attention and she didn't dare have the audacity to gamble with arrogance. She wasn't quiet and she wasn't loud. Instead, her unspoken self presented the world with a symphony of gorgeous music whom simple ears could never comprehend. Her smile was enchanting, her laugh was delightful. She was a beauty to behold, fascinating and captivating. And with each twirl ensued as she danced about, she invaded your mind with rapid incurable curiosity. She danced with life in the shadows of the unknown with quiet confidence. And that was enough for you to become bewildered by her, body and soul." - c.e.e.